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Dallas Texas tonight Troy is on the line by -- how are you tonight.
Doing great say how you doing better than deserves our what's up in your world.
I thought we -- a little situation.
My wife had six credit -- that -- -- -- that -- Al.
She should -- with 88000 dollars in credit card debt.
42000 dollars that she.
Bombed out of her mother 121000 dollars that she did the -- -- -- her sister.
And believe the credit cards.
She shot my main deal.
I got all cleared up I don't.
I -- ago they should get a job.
And -- she basically said I'll -- you I have to go to work.
-- -- -- -- got to worry about our kids that they care.
How do you handle -- situation like yes.
What does she spend a 130000.
Dollars on that you didn't know about.
I don't that's the million dollar question -- -- truck for live and I'm all operator.
And then the -- -- Four years of average Korean -- well.
Dollars after I pay my fuel who -- it before my truck note.
-- -- -- And so another operation of the household was completely dumped -- her -- you being on the road.
And over what period of time that -- run this data up.
Over or maybe five years but there's -- and the show -- And I anticipate after what happened to the money.
-- -- -- -- -- -- -- I -- -- four in my firm has four bit bit.
But in the -- -- she.
Google Talk cobol applications that involve a camper.
Just about why do you why did you -- this you know -- what kind of fiasco you hit me.
-- But how do you deal.
What did you say -- that.
-- -- Would you spend it not only -- you when you say why would you go -- -- camper and go on vacation when we're deeply in debt.
-- what did she say.
I -- been terrible if you.
This defiant saying her two sisters see it.
As well as women who she had elsewhere -- -- -- -- -- I can't -- having a car.
But when your husband and -- They went 230000.
Dollars a year -- trust your wife more than you trust anybody.
You'd think Jerry thanks for her so -- your goal occasion that's -- I'll go.
But -- she -- all this army.
Obviously what you do -- you hired somebody to handle your money who wasn't very good at handling money.
And when I -- personal work for me that's not very good at what I hire them to do.
And then -- turn them loose to do that without checking in without verifying hum partly responsible -- your partly responsible.
You don't -- -- -- on the road to make money.
Understand how it happened the last thing you are response wanting your partly responsible because you weren't.
Investigating anything you weren't helping at all what the discussion money which is wrong way to do things but of course she doesn't need to be lying.
And and should need to run by run around buying crap when you all are deeply in debt so there's enough blame in this mess to go around most of it -- So I think what you've got is a couple things one is you've got a process of handling money that sucks beyond belief.
And that is you dump the money on her and you go on the road.
That doesn't work anymore.
From today forward the two of you have to discuss everything that's purchased before which purchased.
And you get both have a vote and you -- -- budget at the beginning of the month we stick to the budget exactly.
From today forward.
And then you start putting stuff on the market charts selling it like crazy four wheelers and campers and we're not going on vacation in this family's going on beans and rice tried some things we've got to clean this mess up.
And mother and sister are the last two to get paid.
-- -- according ghetto it's all paid off.
Yes -- why well.
How did you -- that.
Work or how over what period of time to clear -- -- 130 grand in debt.
I did hear wow.
So you took control the money.
Oh yes or -- kind.
But it's clear I got everything clean bill but -- I asked her I think about going to get a job and just helping -- Like -- -- just.
Well I'm not.
During the -- go to work as punishment.
For her incompetence of handling money.
If you've got kids at home and she wants to stay home with the kids I don't have a problem -- that.
I mean I don't -- I mean so I don't think she has to hit the workforce you've got nine cleared up my gosh.
But what you don't have cleared up -- you have any mutual respect you I mean communication in this marriage.
You just took the thing over and fixed it.
And you didn't fix the relationship breakdown -- her lying to you.
And you didn't fix a relationship breakdown -- you abandoning her.
And then being pissed because she didn't do it the way you thought -- be done.
And so you guys have got to be there for each other in a lot better way marriage wise than you've ever been.
So I'm gonna suggest that you schedule.
You know one day a week home or whatever you need to do to get in -- marriage counseling so the two of you can get back on the same page.
No I don't think this really needs to go to work you got the mess cleaned up you make enough money to clean it up what you gotta do is make sure the -- never happens again.
And that's from lots of communication and learning to work to -- her.
Not you -- the money or from her or you dump the money on her.
New one of those are good systems you -- -- the money the better system and -- had but but I want I want to be done right where your work.
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