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Let's go to -- -- he is in Dallas Texas how are -- Are you doing -- had a than I deserve how can -- helps our.
Good afternoon I'm my question is regarding emerging -- for newlyweds.
Who actually got married back in February -- congratulations.
Thank you very much my wife and I both of whom he -- -- nickel plant.
That's what I do.
She's where she -- who has committed to it which he's.
-- action by internationally nationally this program should specifically we were.
I'm working on our first and put -- getting -- huge issue a little reluctant to little to actually play and why are.
She says -- culture that you wish you were actually murder financial why.
Irrational course that we -- have passed financial issues -- -- quote the mayor before.
And so little chief economic I think she felt that.
She was responsible for her English before -- -- -- so -- from -- Yes didn't do a very good pre marital counseling did you.
That area and kind of how long if you -- before you're married actually how old are you.
I'm forty -- short time and you both went through previous -- Money break up either one of those.
A couple of small business owner I think they're -- to do minutiae that you may actually another -- -- Connecticut had a -- -- leaders basically.
-- entrepreneurs don't bring marriages -- you mean money problems.
The money arguments -- -- click OK well here's here's what -- do in this situation.
You've basically what I would do it is this is our over the television off taker -- hands in your hands and look in -- -- And Vermont are much -- lover and that money problems destroyed your last two marriages.
And so we've got to do this different we've got to combine everything we've got to be on the same page we've got to work together.
I don't wanna gradually love you all -- love you wide open.
And we've got to learn to work together here it's its own way we survive.
And and and you know really truthfully if I were in your shoes.
I'd call a good marriage counselor and sit down and do the equivalent of pre marriage counseling and post marriage here.
Give you got the tools to work through.
The hurts of the past and how that's reflected on the new marriage that's a big deal towards -- second marriages being successful.
And that give you the tools to learn to combine your lives you shouldn't get married until you ready combine your lives and so that tells me you.
Needed who have worked on that a little bit more not necessarily time wise but just during the time you are engaged in dating then you did work on it.
You chose to wait till after you were married to really talk about the subject.
And -- you got to try to fix that and I -- need to say all of that out loud.
As an act of love clearly saying not I'm right you're wrong not I'm a fundamentalist and you're free spirit.
You know it's not about Dave Ramsey it's about us working together and making sure we don't do a -- -- Of what each of -- did before because money was the problem so let's see if we know money is the problem.
Let's spend a lot of energy dealing with what could be.
Our biggest chance for screw in this -- up.
And I don't want him want to go near that.
I just got married I'm madly in love.
So and so you need to really couch this truthfully.
And with a lot of transparency in that this is that this is you this discussion is all about the fact that I love you so much.
It's all about that it's not all about me controlling -- it's not all about a Dave Ramsey program went -- and -- -- -- on.
You know this is about us doing this marriage thing right.
Oh my gosh I don't even wanna come close to what you went through before I went -- before we early morning even visit that for one day.
Let's do the hard work of working this out and sharing our lives our pains our joys are of victories are challenges and do that through the money.
And let's come back and immediately lets just go wide open into this and and and you know we probably ought to sit down with somebody and and and spend little time.
You know learning how to be married batter that's all counseling years and it's it's worth the investment -- from a ship.
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