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Thousand Michigan hi -- how -- you.
Angry they think you're taking -- sure what's up.
While -- I think I'm kind of -- that it can't allow myself.
It's very public thinking shall buddy yourself image as -- -- -- both -- -- so that's good that's great this week -- -- -- -- I let our finances in order from solid since they get track that Eric count down the street -- And I -- all we are very I accept I -- how much they actually get a hole and it.
I -- alcohol in -- pay art that they you know how Elijah and -- -- we could put some extra money I'm Irish -- that.
I -- been does most of the bills brutality that we don't have extra money that I love about them paying you know regrets that and I -- sure it'll.
Cool I played you know we go EG debit card they they unforced it was they sure I'll take on the ballot here at thirty dollars or make an example -- And I might AM that does.
Emergency find more on that alcohol but something happened to me you know quite there's a little if she asked him up to about 500 dollars.
And that anger here this is an excellent -- and it who -- -- -- like it had the big -- I need.
I don't know how to coming up and that they've gotten it -- I'm afraid that by Alan that I got it but he could he -- won't even put -- -- that that bill while I want him to be.
Like with me that's -- be looking up -- -- is somebody in America.
So why don't you have a vote in the bills.
Well I do I've got -- he's getting he's -- why don't you have a vote in the bills.
I don't know -- only you're only been married.
For years and you've done something that invalidate your opinion.
Well I -- I am I always -- that and so that's that's part of that who who are.
And I I'd say it has -- -- -- -- -- on but let.
I don't know either it afraid that if -- actor not an app we won't have extra money to -- the other in the late meeting thought we've been hearing what.
Are you would be right about that.
And that's what -- you have a huge -- -- that because you've been buying crap like dinners out that you can't afford.
I and so -- that has to stop and so he's not willing to sacrifice to get out of that is what he's saying.
I don't know how to get them.
Think that he's becoming less treatment and we're getting -- -- actually Kathy got stomach that that is very exciting.
I am -- -- -- out I'm -- my flu is you know I don't I jumped right Emma both.
-- I don't know I mean he's doing great that we have the -- that and we're getting their -- -- credit card stepped off some we're having out.
There -- they all next week.
I I just don't know.
-- -- -- well I think you to sit down talk to him turn off the television and have a discussion in the discussion sounds like what you've been telling me.
I think there's three parts to this discussion one issue proud of the progress we've been making.
And you're excited about that.
Two is I've never had a vote and a look at the whole budget or we work together on that and then you go write the checks I want -- vote.
I want to -- what's going on every detail with the money I want us to write out a budget before the month begins both of us look at it both of us agree to what we're going to do.
Can you thank me how good.
-- the project.
-- -- -- the number of and the dollars of income you have at the top of the page for this coming month and you spend them on paper.
Every dollar has a name income on -- -- go equals exactly zero.
-- solid is every dollar has -- name.
Every dollar has a name beside it of some kind.
Miscellaneous spending categories okay as all the small but every dollar has -- -- gonna blow some money on purpose that's fine.
You know put that as a category but keep that small.
And then of course every dollar you can wring out of this budget is one of the attributed to that smallest debt until it's gone.
So that that's thing one is we're going to brag on how well we've done so far.
And brag on him.
Two is though I'm becoming increasingly frustrated that my vote does not count in this and that your man handling this and I wanna say -- this not as a some kind of a women's live birth thing or something like that.
But I -- partner in life and we want to walk together we're gonna sit down together and spend this money on paper I'm excited about.
Having an opinion here and my vote counts.
And the third thing is because I didn't think my vote counts and you didn't give -- -- right to count and you said we didn't have any money I want improved that we did.
Here's -- money that we can throw -- our debt to start out and I apologize for lying to you about that I feel -- about that.
I won't do it again.
But it was driven by the fact that I didn't have a vote.
The reason it is he didn't let you have -- pay your opinion didn't count.
I and so he's as guilty in this thing -- you are this is a dysfunctional thing that -- caught early.
Yeah continues it's going to evolve into a full blown settle lies.
And a full blown blown -- -- control freaking on his part that's gonna cause serious problems in your marriage you caught it early.
And so I mean it's kind of a bump in the road now instead -- -- you drove off the Grand Canyon right.
Harry let let's you know let's deal with it -- it's a bump in the road and not let it let this you know not let -- keep getting bigger don't -- the cracked him in the relationship give.
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