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Salt Lake City hi Julie Merry Christmas to you.
Hey thank you Merry Christmas to you.
I have a son and a daughter that are developing high school and they -- typical busy teenagers say they both have our college bound.
Both played two musical instrument.
And they're active and our church and they had they both want to earn scholarship for college.
And how my husband and I thought that it would be important for them -- -- they'll have jobs.
And Republicans are that they've they've both been working and say they are just super busy and we wondered how important is it -- -- -- have a job -- you know my particular teenagers who.
Have a lot of things going on.
-- and an orchestra and they thought they also play the piano and they they seem to be spread again and I would I want them to make a great and they they want to make a -- But the -- to have your opinion on how important it was for them to have job.
I don't know that it is that important.
But they do need to learn to work and they have learned to work and their application of academics and in their music interest.
That that's a work ethic required and either one of those -- become.
You know reasonably talented.
-- I don't know that you have to crack a whip and require some by the work the way I asked questions about things like that and it brings you to some surprising conclusions sometimes.
If they do travel baseball -- they don't do travel baseball will it matter when they're thirty.
You know you know if they if they take a piano lesson or play in the band.
Will it matter when they're thirty.
-- it may be you know.
It's about an answer yeah -- may be travel baseball if they're gonna go to the pros but otherwise it's for fun.
And we're adding a level of expense and a level.
And a level.
Of time that becomes unwieldy.
For really what is fun.
Muslim and spokesman fun but he gets out of control.
You know my son as an example plays ice hockey and is -- elected.
Based on that decision making paradigm -- not do travel hockey.
He plays high school hockey.
The silliest fun we were -- last night they won in the last minute it was a lot of fun I'm glad he's doing and he's a senior it's been great but a great ride -- coached him several years all those kinds of things.
But he's not going to be in the NHL he's not even gonna play at the collegiate level.
Between -- -- it's not gonna change his life.
Weekends for fun.
And and so it's not going to get in the way of him having a life doing something else.
In the -- if we have to choose between him going to church which will matter when he's thirty.
And him being an ice hockey thing he'll be -- church.
And so that's the way we gauge it because what happens as we get all caught up in all of these things for our kids.
That all seem important at the time but the way you can tell if they're important as if they matter later.
And some level of the musical stuff doesn't matter later.
Somehow hold us.
My my son is hoping to maybe get a scholarship through his musical ability.
Kind than that and you know other than that does matter.
I -- on -- -- that particular instrument probably yes.
Well he's got three other instruments he's playing with just because he's gifted and that's all for fun maybe that's sometime he -- to work because there -- some benefits of learning to work.
So I'm just saying that's the way you can measure -- degrees of what do you do travel hockey your regular hockey.
Travel music or regular music you know another word from I'm using a metaphor but you see -- saying.
And I can just measure some of -- stuff that we seem to think at the time is so big a deal.
And it's really not parents really get some screwed up things Mike my child has to be in this particular club.
And it's like you know does that matter when -- thirty.
No it doesn't.
And Oman had to be in a sorority the world is gonna come to an individuals and immaturity -- I'm glad she's in short she got a lot of friends.
Those friends will be around three of them when she's thirty.
The rest of it it's a nice memory from college.
That's it sorry.
That's the deal and so you gotta kind of think through what -- if you have to cut something that's the way to look at it doesn't matter -- thirty.
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