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Start with -- re not over Pensacola Florida before we go to work although she did send us a bit of a video about her situation.
I didn't I'm not an -- and -- -- they send them to improve really excited -- however.
My husband works really hard in the air force and the anywhere.
When he confirms it's hard -- -- think -- talk about room.
And there -- more exciting way asking him about confessing her -- -- Morning that my.
Some change and -- can reach the same intensity level I have about the can get pretty.
And weren't you know this is really I mean come.
Good very cool very good all right -- -- how are you tonight.
-- great and eat any particular crop -- you may be the first video we've gotten that into the -- that was pretty good.
Very fun -- how to make budgeting exciting.
Wow what a question.
Yes sir I eat out looking -- seek -- admired and normalize your school and became a little more -- it.
Kind of hard to get him to picking on you look at it like elect me and he mastered the path because.
We getting little -- it's a blatant and you don't overtly out there's not a way to understand that I need a little more idol can get.
Get -- get a little bit well.
The good news about this guy is two things one is he loves his wife.
And two is he has this tremendous com.
I you know he's a manly man he's a military guy.
And so I think I'm probably appeal to him right there and you can go ahead and let him watch this because I mean news so you we're not trying to manipulate and we're just trying to say.
What are words I can say that make this matter number one.
I think that it is valid to say without exaggeration.
That if you are handling all the weight of the household budget by yourself you're handling all the decisions of the household by yourself.
That in my mind makes you a damsel in distress.
That make sense.
-- being kind of left to carry all this by yourself you need help that's what a damsel in distress is.
And I think this Knight in shining armor needs to come help -- damsel.
And that's a -- to appeal to him in other words honey I can't carry this by myself.
And I need your -- -- broad shoulders to help me carry it not because you're a woman in your deficit.
Because of it was a guy do it by himself -- I wouldn't be a damsel in distress then but.
We didn't you know I still don't want the guy do it -- -- you need to learn to work together you know one have you doesn't need to carry the weight of the whole household.
By yourself it gets tiring because you start -- -- the other person's just a child.
That you're taking care of you start to take the position mommy rather than wife.
Hear your money little boy now behave and don't -- the two lollipops.
And you know were Laphen but that's kind of how it feels to you and it feels a little bit that way to -- home.
He's never said it out loud because he doesn't want to have to deal -- this stuff.
But you know he kind of does feel like -- -- to go and ask his -- permission because she's on the Dave Ramsey budget old goodness gracious.
-- done work and so I think when you talk about in those terms of you don't need to carry the weight by yourself because it's not fair to you to do that number one.
And the number two it keeps you from reaching a level of resentment in your relationship.
Or you start to feel like a mom rather than a wife carrying this thing.
And you know I.
And I think you just can't talk about like that it's not about numbers it is not about you crunching numbers -- crunched the numbers I just want you to look at them with me longer enough.
That you know what they are.
And -- you give some intelligent input and then we pinky swear and -- -- that this is our plan.
Then I know when -- executing this plan that I'm not executing my plan -- securing our point.
In wolf because you're good at putting together the budget -- my right.
And so you know you know how to do crunch the numbers put the thing again he's not gonna have to carry the weight of the details because Iraqi city -- the numbers all day long and then we'll look at -- more numbers.
And so we're not really asking him to crunch the numbers were to -- look at this with me.
Given a good hard look to where I know you know what it is.
And then this becomes our contract that -- -- to come.
-- bookkeeper that -- Q it's what the committee told me to execute and the committee is the marriage.
And that takes the weight of all the decision making off of you.
By yourself and if you -- to do something that's not on that contract you have to go back to the committee and get approval.
And he does too and that a committee is the two of you.
Does that help but all.
Yes very day bogey -- my.
-- I'll give me a funny suggestion to won't work but one of the ladies and our financial condition virtually young couple.
Had trouble getting her husband budget and she sent us this whole link the paragraph about how fun it was to budget naked now I don't know.
You never -- I think you get his attention now that I'm not sure we keep it on the budget that's the problem hook --
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