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-- -- -- -- -- you know he talk how there is.
A lot of possibilities in the workplace and with the right -- and your career can be propelled.
With the wrong person you could be severely disappointed in you say it's all about relational -- So what is relational IQ and why is it important to any person working in office environments or on -- factory floor you know.
-- relational IQ is simply a person's understanding.
And intelligence quotient that won't give them the ability to navigate.
The land -- relationships.
And -- critical in my book the people factor.
I do with -- business relational issues that I've seen.
Time and time again as I've led a large organization and also as I had -- business leaders around the world.
And -- covers a number.
Relational concepts in business principles but the most important one is simply that there are no -- -- relationships you have some kind of relationship.
What every person in your life and you -- -- -- just a second ago the right relationships will propel you to great heights of achievement.
Or the wrong relationships we'll keep -- tethered to mediocrity and disappointment for the rest of your life.
And they're really about in my book cover about ten don'ts and now will destroy your life changing connections that -- but I hope it's and I think they're really only about.
Five so I don't know -- -- and actually let's let's talk about that -- first one is don't tweak the truth what exactly does that.
Well studies show now that between twenty to 30% of applicants tweak their resonate so that they can look better appear better to potential corporations.
And employers and I get it people now under tremendous amount of pressure to keep and maintain competitive well paying job but it current events.
-- Julien taught us anything is simply this.
The truth always comes out and so being in authentically -- honest.
-- always undermine potential or current relationships.
So this second one is don't force at this.
-- don't try too hard.
Well what it means is this in whatever you do if you're doing it only for money at some point you're going to be miserable.
And so real joy and fulfillment comes from doing things that connects to your character and your overall values and so you've got it it evaluate.
All of your relationship -- relationship with your peers and even when the company that you work for and make sure that those relationships are -- -- it.
With your values and your character and if they are not.
Don't make them -- force -- -- try to fit in your life because ultimately going to be disappointment.
Well the third what a third point you have had to do -- history now history tends to repeat itself but you say it don't repeat attacks.
-- and -- this is really about possibility and a concept that I call promote ability.
The truth is that everybody is on the path of company.
This is why we spend so much money would education and training and what this means -- corporations and for individuals is at all in the past is not off.
Only he's the best indicator.
Of a person's future or they -- promote ability fault that we allow.
What's happened in a person's past mistakes other issues to be the indicator of whether they're from multiple in the future or whether they're even.
A possible good match in the future.
People's mistakes in the past.
-- greatest things that helped them to get on the right path for a better future and so that's really what I mean when I say don't repeat the past.
Interesting -- in the fourth one is don't lose that personal power.
Obviously in the workplace power dynamic -- very sensitive.
Right -- -- so what's the best way to navigate.
You know wanting to maximize your experience show off that year -- when he's capable.
And yet not maybe outshine -- you know.
Then the next level up.
Well that's a good question there it's kind of little adage that you may have heard and -- -- like this you can't pick your family but you can.
Pick your friends and while that's -- it doesn't really hold up in the workplace because often you can't pick your coworkers which means how -- you want end up having to deal with difficult people.
Which is why the whole notion of raising your relational IQ which -- talk about a lot in my new book the people factors so critical.
Because in the workplace you have to learn how to be able to identify.
And handle difficult people.
So that you can be effective in the workplace -- how negatively being affected.
By those difficult people.
Isn't it tough though when you're in the workplace and you run into someone mean not -- with you.
To avoid that I mean how do you actually handle that we're nearing a close quarters many working on a project together.
Everyone has you know someone at work that neither not exactly the best puzzle -- wet.
Yeah it can be hard for raising your relation like you can help you to really handle that will grace that -- The bottom line is that you can learn how to work with a difficult person so that your effective and that the bottom line what your call to accomplish together is done.
But you don't necessarily have to take all of their baggage -- all -- they're negativity home Wiki.
And so is really about understanding what those principles are so that you can navigate through what are called the minefield of relationships.
And just saying OK well the last one last but not least -- say don't except every -- -- -- happy updates you.
Hard one for me understand because they think the what you're trying to do is build your relational -- right into your trying take to develop these stronger more effective relationships.
But you're saying you don't have to accept everyone what does that mean.
Well it means something very critical for many people they probably remember in grade school kindergarten first and second grade when we were.
Making new friends we used to in some circles in certain cultures right on a piece of paper do you wanna be my friend -- yes.
I checked the box no.
And interestingly enough.
Even though our lives have become more nuanced and we have become more educated and we're dealing with the multiplicity of things.
Many people handle business relationships the same way.
Particularly Jolene in this age of reality TV because most of the examples that were given a -- Relationships teach us that we are to just allow people have all access to our lives and that's not true people have got to understand.
That the people in their lives and are around them right now both people of charting the course for their next week they're next month and ultimately their next year.
And so people have got to -- an individual's particular potential workplace and personal relationship individuals.
Do what I call -- qualification.
And selection process everybody should not have access to you.
And you shouldn't give full access of your life to everyone people should have to qualify for you.
And been through that qualification process you have to select the right people.
Vatican roulette wheel where you're trying to go what you're trying to do so that those relationships are ultimately effective and they -- helping you to get to -- in goal.
Instead of just casually taking you to your demise.
And and that's that's so interesting you know we -- -- jobs report come out and a 162000.
New jobs are created at that disappointing number.
Unemployment is still a seven point 4%.
Did these rules apply for people who are looking for a job who are unemployed.
I'm sorry you broke up we'll keep them -- -- -- say it -- yet it -- you know -- a lot of people who remain unemployed in the US seven point 4% right.
So when did the rules still apply for people who don't have a job who maybe.
Are looking for work -- unemployed right now.
-- -- a while money is often the motivating factor for a job -- after jobs.
Are given I have to you accept the position -- now got the great award.
Of making sure that it's a good fit and so people understand.
All of the rules and principles that I really share in the new book the people factor not only will -- help them to better I didn't defied.
Grade -- were placed connections in terms of opportunities.
That are great for them not just because it's a job opportunity but because it's a great match for them.
But once they get those jobs these principles will also help them to climb the ladder effectively and just overall hill in the workplace will be different.
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