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-- -- I'm okay does America still have true grit no safe zone.
And why is taking a risk.
Then upsets that cowboy libertarian the idea that you're gonna retaliate and -- something.
It's crazy should behavior like this -- -- It's time to toughen up -- what's vacation up American -- This is -- this group of Purdue engineers offended people because they're all white.
Is that offensive.
At least some Americans still have -- like the businessman who fought back after this happened.
The mile wide tornado carved a path of destruction -- whatever happened to.
That's our show.
The dictionary says -- means firmness of character clock indomitable spirit.
Some people think about cowboys play characters played by John Wayne Clint Eastwood maybe some people think about Patrick -- Sorenson who's hit.
-- or radio host who calls themselves the cowboy libertarian who argues that -- bloated government is killing off -- in America we may.
We have become a dependent state we decide to trade our freedom for security.
We decided to say let the government handle these things let's just be dependent on the government.
You point out that our parents were very different.
Absolutely our parents were the ones who said.
Look you wanna go and be somebody in your life you've got to get out there and you've got to start working when you're young you've got to start doing things and you've got to demonstrate the ability to stand up on your own two feet you know the last few years we've been teaching kids in school self esteem.
Instead a self reliance.
And that's a big difference.
So to stay like yourself that's good well that's great that they like themselves were building a nice nation a narcissistic flip.
Life has risk you can't legislate litigate or regulate -- way out of every problem some things just happen.
The one thing we baby rumors embraced was the welfare state and I believe that -- when I was in college this was gonna end poverty.
And it's a good example of the dependency talk about because he -- look at a a graph of what happened after the war and poverty began its true poverty dropped the first five years nine million people were helped off the poverty.
But did look what's happened since.
The lines going up and down we taught people.
To be dependent and progress stopped and even more interesting look what happened at the five years before the war and poverty.
And you see that people were lifting themselves out of poverty -- on their own without government.
Government in effect help the few people and then stop the progress.
Yet look what else happened -- -- a good example Katrina.
Hurricane Katrina was predicted because now we have the ability -- science to know that hurricanes coming your way in -- going to hit New Orleans like up powerful.
So what happened.
People sat there.
They waited for the government to come and bring the bus to take them to safety.
I won't tell you something you got ten days warning you start walking.
You pack up your gears.
He said I gotta get out of here because I got to save myself I gonna get to higher ground.
Know people sat there and they said we the government comes in fix mean that we end up with a bunch of people sit in the superdome.
Have become more urbanized and more -- -- and when that happens they want more things.
And the politicians are more than happy to say look we're gonna give you this we're gonna give -- this service and that service in this dependency and that dependency.
And the people say fine fine yeah let's keep doing that which is you're doing that well give us more goodies.
The detailed Phil said.
Once congress can find out that it can bribe the public with its own money it's the end of the republic well guess what congress found out how to do -- -- -- every local government and local officials so they just keep taking your tax money and say we're gonna do these wonderful things for -- instead -- -- America stand up on your own two feet again.
Another example that you point out is that government kills gripped by offering extended.
Unemployment benefits and my crew we could learn from Denmark that.
Socialist government there once gave laid off workers five years of unemployment benefits when did.
Many -- finally find work some Fries after exactly five years.
So Denmark cut benefits of four years Danes been found jobs in four years now for Denmark's limited the benefits to two years.
They at least are learning.
People in this country those say no we should go the other way these people are suffering unemployment -- high give more benefits.
Socialist governments in Europe are running away.
From the welfare state -- running away from the fire Americans are dousing themselves in gasoline running towards the fire that's eventually gonna burn down the whole structure because we just can't afford these things but more than that.
It's about the character of the nation.
If we keep letting the government do things for -- for us what's the -- to say about us as a people.
Now I suppose some of you might say it's easy for us to talk about the harm done by the welfare state we're too privileged white -- but.
What about poor people.
And what about minority -- let's talk to someone who's not white and grew up far from privilege -- -- mean Morelli is the author of black lash a book that.
Claims the left is driving Americans to the government plantation.
Government plantation what do you mean.
Well John -- in the government economic economic government plantation.
Because there are way too many people who feel they are entitled to government support for there every day wants and needs when you're looking at the number of people who are.
Obtaining government assistance.
-- -- also trading up for votes in some instances especially when the number keeps going -- regardless of what happens with the economy numbers are deplorable all the 47 million people -- food stamps.
Let me put that in perspective the state of California.
There are more people on food stamps than citizens -- the state of California what some people are genuinely unable to find work.
Some people -- jobs are out there I mean it might not be the job that you want I mean as I laid out in my book black clash I've worked in a number a jobs.
I wasn't always crazy about think about the New Jersey Department of Motor Vehicles.
Working there without a computer with manual typewriters.
Long lines of people coming in angry because -- the end of the month it was a great experience but it wasn't the ideal situation what I did it.
And that the jobs are out there Lester who went to a job center and welfare office not far from here and asked people.
Why are you giving -- No -- around.
Really pissed -- I asked my team to check that out.
Within a few blocks of that welfare office -- -- lots -- businesses that want to hire people.
Of 79 businesses that we -- in less than two hours forty said they would hire.
Twenty -- that they take people with no experience.
The owner of this restaurant -- he'd hire lots of people.
How many could come with no experience.
I would probably take like nine probably.
Take -- and China.
And at the welfare office people told us there -- no job.
-- you -- this funny jobs outside that welfare office we met this woman who said she works for human resources.
There are no jobs around.
They felt it would be good line on it it would it's possible they're not -- trying double what about a whatnot but it's another -- Do you think you -- human resources.
Encourage people to be dependence that gets beat them.
Don't really know.
It's not give away the money and then get get a job -- -- -- -- it's got.
It's refreshing when someone.
In the government says that you know the jobs are out there you need to take.
Not rely on the government the government has extended -- unemployment benefits and then after that.
People go on disability somehow I still don't understand how they're able to do that.
But -- broke.
Let's go into the touching racial part -- be used this phrase government plantation plantation.
Implies slavery noted that certainly during different.
-- I call economic slavery and when you look at the people who are are relying on government for their everyday wants and needs.
Those resources are limits it.
And -- with those resources come restrictions.
If you're gainfully employed you can do whatever you want with your resources and the sky is the limit.
So you can make as much money as you want when I left home I didn't know what job I was going to take but I always took a job where I knew I could.
I -- learn something gain from it and advance from there you say growing up you heard messages from so called civil rights leaders.
That said don't do that.
Yes and that we still hear the same messages I call them the black liberal establishment.
Community activists some pats -- message NAACP.
The messages that blacks are victims blacks any special treatment.
And it's the same message so I white race and side -- you today make it and to blame others.
-- Charles Murray said in.
The book losing ground that help turn things around we tried to provide more for the poor and produced more poor instead we inadvertently.
Built a trap.
Which you both -- argue.
Absolutely look good look what we did we send to people have babies we're gonna pay you to have children.
We said we're going to give you.
You know aid for this we're gonna give you welfare for not working we're gonna give you housing that you don't have to pay for if you had no skin in the game if you go to an apartment and you don't have to fill out a lease and give the guy deposit and then pay around every month.
What's the difference you have no skin in the game.
She says that era plantations I say we've created vertical Indian reservations in our city where we're just warehousing human beings.
But -- talk about children.
That people on the left but say.
You've cut this out here punishing these children there in this of course there innocent but at some point you've got -- break the cycle of poverty you're not gonna break this article bar -- if you keep making more -- people.
Because we're now four -- five generations -- people who have -- nothing else than government.
Support -- I watched Judge -- all the time -- -- always -- these people about their case and they don't know anything about the case they're being sued for but that she says how do you make a living and you know what they say well I get -- -- FTC they know government programs like the back of their hand but that's all they know.
Now -- are on Amazon we look -- your Amazon page for black clash against some nasty comments about you.
G Pettit says you're despicable.
It's so easy and profitable to pander to the Republicans.
Give them one more black face to try to show see we're not racist.
Tricky Nicky says there are two types of conservatives the very rich and fools ms.
worry only falls into the latter category.
I'm an American.
And I don't really care what the comments are that people write about.
The reason they write those comments is to try to stifle me to shut me down.
Because my messages resonated and again I'm about liberty really I -- resonating awaiting an overweight and really.
It's resonating I'd say the welfare state growing I see people who are coming out of the closet I call them black conservatives.
-- cause of black conservatives who are coming out saying they appreciate what I do.
What I say but they're afraid to be targeted -- criticized by their family their friends or coworkers when the fact.
They agree with what I say and when you say we're making progress and I'm skeptical I'm thinking about things like snap which is the new name for.
Welfare basically I guess their pet less and less less of a stigma -- it's safer stupid name for atrocious program have to but.
In Rhode Island they host bingo themed parties and games for elderly people to encourage -- And to get food stamps -- -- the new food stamp program.
I find it to be utterly embarrassing our for our government is running as -- was running as -- having these parties to get more people to rely on the governor remember Obama -- he want to fundamentally transform America.
Getting people to -- more dependent on the government is part of that plan and it's the wrong -- for our country.
It's one last example about a -- you see people banking in cities like this and when I was a kid I would feel sorry for them and give the money.
Then we did tests and found that lets you almost all problem were -- homes that we're scamming people.
And the social service agencies say.
Don't give to the -- and I tried it for on our remaining eleven box that's more than minimum wage.
By giving money to those people you are teaching them to be dependent are supporting their alcohol -- you're saying yeah you don't need to work.
We're teaching people to eat fish we're not teaching people how to fish it's an old cliche but it's true.
The more you make people dependent on the government they're not gonna go out and trying to find themselves we have to judge government programs as Milton Friedman said not by their intention but by their effectiveness.
And the problem is we get too many government programs that are ineffective.
And it seems you can't get rid of any of them thank you Patrick -- and -- the -- Morelli.
Coming up we all want to protect our children but as we protect the more -- we rob the most -- Hi boards -- -- kids test their limits.
But now Americans are told get rid of risks even good rules.
You know Andrew Jackson was our seventh president he's the guy and the twenty dollar -- And during the revolutionary war Jackson volunteered to fight.
He was thirteen at the -- The British captured him and made him a servant for British officers.
When one -- Jackson to clean his boots Jackson said no when the officer lifted his sword and slash Jackson's hands.
Then Jackson nearly starved that a British prison camp.
But he had -- he survived and went on to become president.
You have that much -- did you when you were a kid.
I doubt that I have it now and what about our kids today I -- parents saying you have to protect your kids from all danger.
Some -- let teenagers go to school by themselves and that's not says florist because it -- -- hitting it could typically American -- are.
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Can -- back in 1950 now it's six.
6% of children playing outside and their own because parents are too afraid they think that's something terrible happened either they'll be.
They'll be kidnapped or they'll fall down and somehow they won't get up or of course a -- -- selling no way can -- plan their.
That you became the point person for this after you wrote article about allowing your nine year old to two here in the right -- revolutionary war out now that standard.
To me to I'd take the subway -- itself that that and you were quickly called.
America's worst mom if you Google America's worst bomb.
-- -- It's may first 77 Google pages last count which is probably yesterday at I Google myself obsessively but yet -- its sole.
Maybe you are the worst -- may.
-- -- -- people who are starting to agree with me in the starting to realize that.
For some reason we've been sold on the idea that this generation of kids can't do anything and they're on and then just give you a couple examples you know that.
My friends granddaughter is in -- in what she's about seven months all what kind of class.
I can't get to take what kids do it seven Montel.
Roll around the floor with what I now that the -- aircraft that's Gymboree it's even called -- crying class.
-- they teach -- what I hate stores are selling so I decided that this is I get you know what you get on your way out of the -- -- Our baby knee pads can help because -- decorated nursery and pressed glass.
Hit -- -- I -- in these items around it's because we've been told that this generation of children is so completely vulnerable they can't do anything safely.
Without I think that's -- -- -- outside playing that's why there's classes for crawling and just the tip of the extra.
You started something called take our children to the park and leave them their day yeah my very past winter holiday you take your children to the park.
That's closest to you because in teenaged.
Like some kids -- -- magnet school some kids are going to special led school some kids ago and -- different parochial schools they don't necessarily know all the same children.
In the neighborhoods they bring all the kids to your local park.
And if there -- seven or eight or nine or ten.
-- -- -- -- -- Want what do they learn they learn to manage themselves they might see action more funding management -- playing her -- They have they were playing anyway with the parents watching they would necessarily apparent fighting for other probably inside secondly there are probably ant something electronic and apparently they didn't.
They never had a chance a lot of kids remember we talked about -- 6% of kids playing outside they don't necessarily have a chance to even come up with a game.
So if you have a all the kids there and they don't know what to do and maybe one of them brought -- while that may start.
Coming up -- some things they learn how to invent.
Things in -- to invent games -- teams decide who is in -- out compromise wait their turn all the stuff that mother nature always intended for kids.
To get even like the lessons that they need to become.
Decent citizens not to mention decent students -- just creating your own fun as opposed to your parents are coach or a teacher what blogger since -- works a giant step backward for child safety.
Yeah that's the Blogosphere I think that I'm actually very pro child take it but I don't believe that children need a security detail every time they meet the home.
And I think that when kids get a little bit.
Street smarts I think they're safer at 11.
Woman and an elderly woman -- to my site once that she had been in.
The allergist waiting room which cannot be a giant -- right and she was so called she was reading the newspaper with a magnifying glass.
And this little three year old boy came over and she was showing them you know -- -- Harris -- and the mother came into.
Away from her you have to learn immediately not to trust strangers.
And so that element has just made her child into -- -- a social cripple.
Who thinks that everybody it's equally dangerous every situation is bad every stranger is a menace to -- And I'm saying the act -- that I'm saying that the more kids -- your kids get out in the world the more they interact with people the more you gradually let them go and let them -- -- Human being instead of stunted little -- on -- trees they are safer.
You brought this trophy.
Has which says this is this is a sense Topeka out of a couple of years ago I don't know where I should be showing it but it was if it's from the teen age -- -- things are a teenager.
Cancellations for eighth place -- like that -- -- At a nine yet because I think the -- really thought.
That we can't send a -- home without a trophy because they won't be able to take -- we Vicky can't take it and that's another -- -- -- on confidence or has your child survived the American.
You know you feed you only -- he brought him.
And you have you -- -- -- he's coming back and survive seeing on TV of him he was okay until now because you know let.
Did he think the following okay he's willing -- -- talk about grant.
Script is real I think that you can be had at some things you can fall down you can scrape your knee.
And it's not the end of the world -- is the ability to say well that's thank let me go forward.
He once taped it TV series here's an episode three it -- kids away from overprotective parent want to.
Here's a -- Why aren't so it allowed to -- and I can't I don't like.
My longest -- -- a long time myself and I channels and I -- my mom -- a couple of things.
We teach him how -- you tonight.
-- I cut it paid -- he cut it to me you know could this take -- day so proud and am really proud as I saw from this shows suggest -- putting some great that the kids' lives made them.
And their parents happy you're happy -- he knew everything that I couldn't do.
-- -- -- parents who were shocked turns out that all I have to do is take the children away from the very overprotective family for a few hours for a few days in a row.
And happy today you're gonna ride a bike today you're gonna use a -- once you realize.
Children are built to succeed they've got grit in its built into -- and elective do things on their own.
They are happy and and the parents are just.
The pride and -- take the place.
-- -- -- scan amazing coming up do we need to protect college kids from this.
This video also shows more -- pushing throwing balls and screaming gay slurs of players.
And here we need to protect them from this video because the students are White House and yeah.
Just to keep our Loral up a man who does have grip.
-- enough to come back after this.
That community no longer exists the -- is the homes of everything's gone.
The south has been torn apart Tuscaloosa Alabama devastated a mile wide tornado carved a path of destruction.
Two years ago that -- destroyed much of Tuscaloosa.
This business express oil change.
Was turned into this.
The owner of express oil change John Carney build this business over point five years -- would have been easy to quit after it was destroyed.
If he rebuild his insurance company said.
It would not cover all the costs worse city bureaucrats told him he wouldn't be allowed to rebuild on his property there.
And -- it.
-- -- John Carty has gripped.
Welcome so what can what's grip -- you.
As far as businesses it's a seven day a week.
Never ending challenge to try to achieve your goals.
It's never give up when it's humanly possible to achieve the final goal and -- why bother most jobs are at seven days a week running a business often is well it's odd kind of look at it is it's.
You have an agreement with your employees I had employees that stood by me and I thought it was.
Best for me to stick by them and so I should exhaust every possibility.
To get back in business as soon as possible.
Our rights of the the tornado destroys your property right.
And you -- to rebuild and your local government says.
No you can't because you first place is an eyesore they never said you can't I just wasn't a desirable business.
They were looking for something more.
Aesthetically appealing they were looking for something -- oil change place it's it's it's dirty.
And were on one of the busiest intersections in Tuscaloosa Alabama town of about 90000 people.
And with my brother who is my partner we've been very successful for 25 years and win this tornado came through.
-- the city was looking at ways that it to take advantage quote unquote.
This situation and they were talking about rebuilding plans.
It took me three weeks to get a demolition permit to clean up my mess.
And more delays to get any other permits they wanted you -- turn the building ninety degrees.
-- certain parking -- that.
They just think they mean well -- they meant well that I never said they didn't have the best for Tuscaloosa -- but there.
There recommendations -- that the -- word going back to 1972.
In those codes were out dated -- city officials wanted to compromise they could have compromised but -- was -- -- they have no sense at the damage they're doing they just assume everybody can -- three -- well I think I think -- the problem was -- most politicians today as they have no concept of time -- money.
They're not spending any money and they have nothing but time on their hands and for a business person like me.
The clock is always taking well I'm glad you got your new business up in spite of all these obstacles congratulations thank you John Carney.
We put one example of true grit in the middle of this show because now or ever turn of the stories about the feelings -- -- What some call -- what's expectation of America.
What do you think about what this basketball coach is still.
To keep these kids -- throw Walton did that set this -- -- prosecution not the best full court.
Yeah he's so fast when you offended by that video you weren't.
But it's racist and sexist it promotes white supremacy.
Really that's what at least one college professor in grad student wrote about it.
And their attitude is not a typical in college campuses today says.
Greg -- Keon off a fire the foundation for individual rights and education so.
Why did they say that was racist.
Well it's part of a grand tapestry of people over reacting on college campuses these days.
And this is just another example of how people take something as innocent I mean if you watch -- video it is nerd -- These guys are making geek jokes are talking about being engineers and -- to a debate based on a hit a -- David had sought.
And they're seeing trying to say we're not totally nerdy we we like music you -- actually with the save we are totally -- -- a -- great.
But -- all white right.
And they're all male yep they're there it was a group of friends and there was -- of South Asian student and and there were there were some people seems in the video but since there was a group of white friends who wanna do this free video that promotes the engineering department.
Let the someone on campus -- professor and a grad student actually said this represented white supremacy.
And you've done fired -- twelve years yet to see more of this.
I think that of the victory of the right not to be offended -- -- -- -- the -- this false idea that we have right now to be offended that is been and the assumption this video was that that he.
If it offended you if you work white yeah.
-- would which suggested engineers -- -- liked what -- which honestly I don't do other than people wrote this article it's hard to imagine that anybody -- really offended by this but we've given privilege to this idea -- dead on if you claim offense I'm not allowed to contradict this is a perfect trump card in every argument and campuses are making this worse and then the people who were most easily offended get to dictate everyone else has behaved exactly and then they are doing how.
How -- in the sincerely become basically -- -- trump card that lets you shut down any argument who's not gonna start abusing that and we've been abusing it now on campuses for thirty years can you say laws meant said protect -- people.
Make this worse I absolutely federal laws some -- the -- discrimination laws universities are so are worried about being sued for harassment discrimination.
That when you have these kind of -- -- on campus the General Counsel -- asked to say well you know probably safer to over react so -- -- -- -- -- sued for a hostile invite exactly.
And a study by the American association of colleges said only 30% of college seniors strongly agree with the statement.
That it's safe to hold unpopular opinions on camp yes.
Only 17% of professors agree strongly agree about defeats the entire purpose of higher education.
Which is debate all right -- a few more example -- Harvard has -- civility pledge freshman must sign of what's wrong repair we should be civil that said that you have to.
Agreed to hold civility and inclusiveness and kindness on the same level of intellectual attainment.
Now first of all it's dishonest.
The idea to the most elite institution in the country is seriously like on our inclusive what -- kindness equals intellectual attained exactly.
And the thing is also a completely it's like okay so we're just gonna tell students what they need to believe now what we just shut down the university if -- -- decide what moral philosophy they need to address.
The country was founded by people who were in -- absolutely very very -- to the ground.
State University of New York this week -- that that system and an amazing case a student journalists -- 28 two hockey coaches on other campuses about a possibly goes hockey coach.
And they -- -- at the end he he was just trying to get information to write a paper himself exactly.
Well don't feel -- need to say every -- out there just to be nice in your response.
-- got a response from -- Cornell look coach saying that this is suggesting essentially that there's any commitments it could be said about this coaches and his offensive.
They suspended -- students and kick them off campus as if this guy was a serious threat to campus and that's all he said he notified the police yeah they don't by the police.
He with your help he got back on campus you you.
Publicize these things the universities get embarrassed and they say okay never mind yet fire's main main weapon is is at a pub Booker a public exposure.
Syracuse University both Syracuse university of that -- repeat offender on making the top of our Huffington Post worst colleges for free speech for vocalist to -- running a black student teacher said he thought schools should hire more teachers from black colleges need -- And a student who was well volunteering at at the sun at inner city high school was offended he was saying your rights -- a white students -- saying that you're -- have to stay on my side of the tracks -- hope we're okay with racism.
And he broke this to his friends on FaceBook basically saying I'm being unappreciated for my volunteer time.
And they suspended him from the program for.
He was required to seek anger management you don't Celine complete diversity training and write a paper demonstrating growth in.
Regarding cultural diversity to get back into the campus yeah -- -- he didn't do those things because you guys intervened.
There was public outrage.
We're glad you're out they're doing -- thank you -- -- up next I think his basketball -- is a -- But she have a right to be a -- That's one clip of Rutgers University basketball coach cursing at his players.
He threw balls at some players pushed others and when video of that hit the airwaves recently Governor Christie.
Called him an animal others said what he did was appalling and the coach was -- But the five's Eric Bolling said this about the average.
It's time -- -- -- a could talk about the what's vacation America what's abdication of American men this is it.
Don't know fire agreed in this case a college coach is supposed to be a leader our role model -- guy.
I was a -- he wasn't even affected his teachings had a losing record.
And bullies are a big problem in schools and now we're told bullying is getting much worse.
But -- Porter the author of bully nation disagrees she says.
Bullies are no worse now and overprotective parents and legislators.
Do more harm than good so.
Really protecting us from protecting the kids from bullies.
Here's -- thing you've got to understand John is that kids are no different than they wore when we were children and yet our.
-- of them has changed radically and that's something I'm very interest to them because we now see you're -- school psychologist yes I am and now I'm an administrator and so I know from experience.
That kids are not meaner to each other than they used to be they're not doing nastier things.
And -- learn more lessons about kindness absolutely in fact I'd argue that they're they're actually nicer group and we work -- -- tell us that there are more polite they really are at least the kids I work whether allot nice and I was.
But bombed but we things shifted after column mine and we are now a nation that is not only fearful of children but we are reaching.
-- them what are we doing that's harmful.
Well we no longer call kids stupid when they fail math test and yet when they make a mistake.
In a relationship with another child we are giving them a label that fixes an -- mind who that child it -- it.
And conversely your victim that's just as dangerous because you're given the child a message that their identity comes from their pain and weakness.
-- back to the Rutgers basketball coach.
Wasn't that an evil thing he did and shouldn't he have been fired.
Coaches do extreme things to get extreme responses I was an athlete in college and -- my coach never -- any words but.
Com but I think what.
That guy did it is abused his power and that's what our standard definition of -- so.
Was -- a bully I think he was just a -- coach and probably need a lot of discipline but the reaction to this you say the reaction went too far.
Well let me tell you as soon as we used the term bullying we have license to get in raged with who ever.
We give that term -- and you argue the coaches are supposed to be tough and athletes perform better when the coach.
Yeah also well.
Yeah I I would have performed very well of an athlete of my coach and said -- -- secret.
So this kind of behavior is okay for coach it's not not his but not as I but I I think -- being.
You don't get people to perform at their best just by telling them they're great.
You get them to perform.
By taking -- to the -- you get them to perform.
By making them go inside and find something they've never found before.
The -- agree he went too far.
But now they're defining bullying you saved by things like unfriendly -- -- -- rolling your eyes -- persistent unfriendly SO when you work with middle school kids you find that this is.
This is how there defining bullying now so it's not the classic.
Big kid shaking down a little kid for lunch money it's.
All might be I talked to a school principal a couple of weeks ago she got a call from -- mom my -- being bullied because someone told her her earrings were to -- That's what's going.
And you mentioned middle school.
It's not high school with the biggest problems -- in the middle school the average middle school kid is so self conscious and so self absorbed they are going to see.
Slights everywhere and a big part of what we have to do to help them develop grit is to figure out how to deal with that and let them know.
That's part of life you -- gonna feel bad sometimes and you've got to find a ghetto you've got to find a way to get through.
How do you do that.
An anti bullying laws make that tougher.
I think they I think they do you would transpose the word bully here and call it anti child and that's what I like to do.
Because we are legislating against children's mistakes we are legislating against things that you and I experienced and perhaps did as kids.
And once that happens we're starting to see kids -- outlaws now.
And they haven't changed.
Now one other case that annoys you a constant anchorwoman who.
Put on some weight got an email saying surely you don't consider yourself a suitable example for young people girls in particular.
The anchor woman then went on TV and complain about the -- October is national anti bullying month and this is a problem.
That is growing every day in our schools and on the Internet the Internet has become a weapon.
Our schools have become a battleground and this behavior.
It is passed down from people like the man who wrote me that email.
So what's the problem so -- -- the classic definition bowling it's got to do with power.
There was no power differential she received -- you know she didn't like.
That that guy couldn't fire her he had no the only thing he did was influenced her feelings state.
And yet she felt she could call him a bully and that she also felt it is so when you call Sunday bully you yourself never have to look at your behavior.
And she went continue to talk about it and what about -- guys' reaction she probably doesn't care about that.
All right -- Porter thank you very much coming up as we ask what ever happened to grips.
What do Vincent van go Thomas Edison and Charles Schultz seven com.
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Today some people make fun of westerns but those movies often told a true story about the grit that made America possible.
The pioneers left relatively safe places to travel enormous distances.
Only to tough it out in wilderness.
The turn what one writer called empty land used for not in the ranches and farms.
-- side spending long days plowing suffering through cold winter's.
Grip as what it -- to create civilization.
-- requires delaying gratification.
Wanting something bigger than yourself in the case of America's pioneers often started it.
Losing children losing wives and husbands to build communities.
-- John Wayne's character reported in the big trail we're building a nation we've got to suffer no great trail was ever blaze without hardship.
-- is the stuff of life greatness is often achieved only after repeated failure.
Examples van Gogh was unable to Seles paintings he sold only one jury in his lifetime he -- -- 900.
Cartoonist Charles Schulz had every cartoon he's admitted to his high school yearbook rejected.
Peanuts later became one of the most successful cartoons of all time.
Thomas Edison's teachers told his mom he was too stupid to learn he was fired from his first two jobs for being non productive.
But he had the grit to try and try again it went on to accumulate a thousand US patents.
Including those for the electric -- railway and of course the -- ball.
And the light -- followed a thousand unsuccessful attempt a reporter asked him how -- feel fail a thousand times.
Edison replied I didn't fail a thousand times the light -- was an invention with a thousand steps.
That's -- It's great that we live in a wealthy country one without welfare state so big that we worry about poor people getting fact.
But what makes most people happy is not comfort.
It's earned success success you struggle full.
The opposite of -- success says psychologist Martin Seligman.
Is -- learned helplessness.
In experiments he says when good things occurred that work earned like Nichols coming out of slot machines he did not increase people's well being it produced.
People gave up.
That -- him that he is a threat to our future.
And it really goes through pain and loss we face obstacles to struggle to overcome those obstacles that's the stuff of life.
And the route to happiness and prosperity.
And that's our show thanks for watching.
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