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I know yes sometimes you get so in and -- stand at one career you know all the facets of your industry but you forget how long it took you to learn all of that whether you love it or hate it.
Since you are -- into this new -- you might not realize all those little things that you have to learn how to do.
And suffered through in order -- do that dream job that you.
-- -- edit -- may very well be worth that I mean I jumped out of a career in public relations I was good communication but I realized that wasn't my.
Passion that wasn't my purpose right and so I begin doing what I do now writing speaking coaching.
So you know a lot of times you've got some core skill sets it's just that -- -- to find new place.
To -- skill sets to -- more purposeful.
And not really great question to ask yourself this how can I get the real scoop on my new career.
So you don't we can read -- -- -- but you -- to ask someone who's already been there and done that.
What is his career path really like.
Do you think I have the skill sets to succeed -- it who do you know that I should be talking to.
So making sure that she really talk to someone who knows as opposed to just guessing whether or not you really can enjoy that new career.
Yeah and -- you know what they say the grass is always greener on the other side but sometimes it's fertilized with you know why it.
-- grateful lately it.
Think that labor in thank you so much for coming on the up there of you're booked your five minute personal -- us.
And you website your name -- labor -- dot com.
And I love you founded the cap institute which is the coaching and positive psychology institute thank you so much for coming on -- have a great day -- -- great being with you okay I'm just gonna bring in some viewer testing now being the 8323.
I'm retired but if I were working and I wanted to make a career change I'd ask only one change how much more money -- I -- corporate well -- -- Yeah I latest reality it should -- but oftentimes it comes down to money IAEA big -- I -- -- -- -- doctor Whitney is next and unfortunately.
Start a lot of these new businesses -- not always as successful.
Doing so we will find out why and present a new opportunity that women out there might -- -- consider we'll be right back.
Salary amber -- tips were great but sometimes reality and common sense.
Especially if you have a spamming other people to support kick in and that's -- it isn't anyone listening is chatting and it.
You say here the sightings -- consider.
In possibly changing careers.
One do I have a job too and I'm making enough money to support my -- Three if I leaves will my dad be here if I -- do you come back.
For Willie get unemployment if I don't make it and five and I seriously thinking about this in this economy.
Perhaps -- some more.
And practical assessment of the situation unfortunately in this job market.
Okay back to career accelerating day doctor woody.
Michael -- -- -- joining us out we're looking at the hurdles facing women onto the Norris and research shows nearly half along you businesses in the US launch spy went yeah so that's great -- could start.
Businesses started but men.
-- three and a half times more likely to reach a million dollars in annual revenue.
So that's a challenge and get -- find out more about this actually person -- the big accounting firm.
Six years ago -- what they called the entrepreneurial winning women program -- -- six years ago so it's an annual national contest where.
-- -- seek out.
Successful entrepreneurs who are already on their way -- can maybe make that -- it to the next level.
And I had a chance to talk to -- McPherson is a partner and executive sponsor.
From Ernst and young and part of this program and.
In my consequently vasser was what what is it.
That's causing this -- event in America really is it's alarming word cheating -- how -- women are getting to the same level as men are.
In entrepreneurial ventures out in our conversation we talked about three basic obstacles that she identified and talk about how they try to attack what.
I know one amendment right -- the -- had plenty of women -- have a more difficult time stressing.
The need that they need money.
Bringing and might bring -- money.
And that they still awkward asking for money right it's harder for them so it is it using your first guest talked about that transition a lot of women will like to make after being in the corporate world than going out on their own.
A lot of video -- person to go early.
And either right out of school or very early on in their career and thus they have no backing her money so they have to go ask for and -- times women are actually going into it after they've already had.
A pretty successful career and have some savings so women tend to self fund their own ventures.
Which can be very costly very constraining and it can be dangerous at times so it's important to help women -- had to ask for that money and one of the things it.
Jerry -- talks about when she works -- these women is the fact that.
They need to open doors and helped give them access and to funding in finding opportunities like.
Or networks and individuals who want to come and invest in certain types of companies where they may not have access to the -- that's part of what they try to do was help.
Build that wider network of people so they can find where the money it's.
A press RAs have -- an hour teen brain more outside funding VC -- and right to not -- as much on the self funding to come to me that's right.
And then you have -- staying too narrowly focused thing evidence that yeah one of the challenges she finds is a lot of times women don't think is big as their male counterparts when it comes to starting eventual we're taking that.
But is going -- let -- stay more focused and they don't try to do everything and they concentrate.
More narrowly on that one thing where there is the core of the business -- -- the good the bad habit but.
A lot of times it would be found in the -- is that women will tend to.
Work more in the business then on the business in other words they're doing too much of the -- -- -- a big passion and excitement for doing the work.
-- -- Liz -- had very good at them -- -- And do the work but the challenges.
You have to step back and make that transition to get other people doing -- -- -- you can think bigger about.
Where to again get funding.
And where to take that as other avenues to build.
OK got it and -- to add shying away from the emotional side of developing -- a fairly so women don't have as much of it ego driven need to know how -- In front writes I doubt what do -- my conversation.
It's -- old notion of good girls don't wanna bust.
And don't want to be out there in the limelight grabbing the camera as much as some of I think we can find a lot of -- Entrepreneurs who are really good getting out there.
However there is part of that especially today when it comes social media and his own media.
Visibility is important particularly if you want to drive up.
But at the perceptions of value of the organization -- you want to market it sometimes a lot of these ventures you need that face in front of the name which is -- out there and found.
A great student so this makes sense I I am sure many women owned businesses women started businesses out -- -- face some of these movies.
What is Ernst and young deal aimed at -- kind of -- the spotlight on some of these fine businesses and improve their skills with her successor -- person.
Well let's put it in -- -- said it's a national competition so it's a nominating process you have to get accepted and go into the program okay where can you find information on -- on their web sites that you guys have been on the screen and that's if you just look at Ernst and young if you look at entrepreneurial -- women I find it.
At what they're trying to do is help them give them access.
Ten networks and like minded folks and -- interest in investing in the kind of ventures that they're going after so.
-- -- -- PR company for your business when I won't know I don't it's getting connected with other individuals not as much -- -- part but it's I don't think it would people then it's also.
Learning those executive management skills that we talked about.
How to pull away from being in the business.
And more being over the business sat and negotiating an understanding the contract impasse in the venture capital funding and -- it all works so.
Those -- big things also.
Women entrepreneurs don't have as many mentors or role models as -- -- to do so they're trying also provide access to some well known folks of people who.
Had great success in the past.
In all that is changing as like the data show right.
Nearly half of all businesses are started -- when these days so with the Internet and just that the changing dynamics in the work world more women are indeed.
Under the -- the application processed by the way for their instant -- program is still open female candidates have until June 28.
To apply and doctor woody your article is on foxbusiness.com.
Right now and it wants take a look at some more information now thanks as always the kind of all right.
Bring me that with psychologist business psychologist if there is such a thing and another was today.
So let's talk about that we return and -- -- this segment with big inning 32 threes where it's you can -- -- business plan in the world but if you're selling something nobody wants.
He ain't gonna make it.
And now some things are so simple it's very yeah it's been active I would back.
Welcome back everybody and -- in in any career accelerator Tuesday.
So there are ways to our reduced -- to stay calm and carry on and we have an expert a stress resilience expert.
As well as a business psychologist on set now doctor Sharon melt it thanks for coming -- I can't release it here it is segment I had in my stressed that the -- And I actually get stressed out on I don't -- -- Why don't you give us some tips.
Or -- reducing stress especially in the workplace.
-- so many I know yeah it again but let me just you know sort of as a high level.
Is -- no we only experienced stress when situations feel out of our control literally so there's more you can help it.
Right right at the less that you'll experience by definition.
So in any challenging situation and -- still the leaders and -- in executives in CEO's.
Less stressful because they control all of these well I think that you know they have their own stresses -- so they have this -- of responsibility.
You know over other people.
But so we literally only feel -- when situations -- out of our control so what you -- -- do me any challenging situation is just immediately divided up.
What are the aspects of the situation -- I can control and what are those that I can't control right and then just focus all your attention on what -- -- you can't control and really.
Learn to be.
Very effective -- call it.
The impeccable for your 50% and you can almost always get the result that you want even if there's lots of factors that you can't control the -- -- and yes please but just as an example so.
I want to running as a vice president at a health care organization she had a boss who is a screamer.
OK -- but -- eight general Wesley Jenkins -- when asked if you -- him right.
But there was so much that -- also.
We you talk she would get really rattles you know when she had a one on one on her schedule and went by her boss criticized her she would talk.
On and on trying to justify her decisions.
So here's what she did is that she learns a breathing technique that would keep her cool calm and collected and not get hijacked by her bosses negativity.
-- -- she could at least be a leader she -- it.
Second thing we went his breathing OK so let me get into it and so.
When you're frustrated or angry right -- -- -- he's that way.
It's very heated feeling in your pot a pressure what -- want to do is you want to cool down your physiology.
Cooling effect you're going to be in -- -- -- with a sipping kind of motion and read out through your notes so that make together credit like.
-- -- -- -- And China -- time is I'm not talking and tell me are you feeling a cooling -- trying sensation over the top of the town.
Net man mountain settling -- that's what you're doing it right up and what you're doing there is you're reaching the toxins from your liver OK but most importantly for hers that she was pressing that edit button that I have to -- could really stay poised in that situation.
And the thing that's incredible about -- -- is that it will not only calm you down.
Com -- other person down so will actually noticed that you're doing this weird breathing well she netted his minority yeah you can do very nuanced.
I'm doing it right now you would never yeah.
Right so yes she was actually able to calm her -- down as well as herself down in the -- -- change that dynamic -- so I mean that's like a secret ninja weapons.
But she also did things like she no longer took it personally like she realized she interpreted differently.
Her boss' behavior was her -- lack of coping -- not about her abilities that excellent point.
-- your boss is yelling because they don't know how to handle this situation and everybody else is getting stressed because of there'll.
Lack of the ability to handle the stress yet they have to notice that instead of getting stressed out for no reason that's absolutely right she didn't get -- she was able to stay confident.
And then the other thing is that she came in with her concise talking points.
And she -- to influence her boss she was proposing a merger of two programs.
According to her -- colliding with her -- interest and I -- she was able to get those programs -- infection was promoted.
To be the head of those two programs and look at this her boss never changed ever.
But because she was able to control all of these things she got the result that she wanted and she -- take -- entire -- new.
The tips that you -- seeking -- -- -- the bus from you Daryn that's amazing February tips you have for us.
Well you know one of the things that I hear the most from corporate leaders in business owners in my -- is I have so much going on my head I can't turn it off.
Okay yeah have assumed -- email on a constant connectivity these days it to do list just keeps running in our heads he can't turn off I get that everyone experiences thanks so let me give you something in particular.
To help you get back to sleep at night when you're having that to do list so it's actually a very easy fix if you just know how your body works when I guess -- accept.
Are and are nervous system we have two parts we have an on button and an off button.
Not on what gives you energy and focus the off button gives you calm and rejuvenation helps -- see the big picture they can get that energy and focus that's my accident most of us are just where only using the on button right -- think it's too indulgent.
And so were only rushing off to the next meeting in you know that last email.
And so when you wake up in the middle of the night with your thoughts racing.
It's only because your overactive finger on the button right in all it means is that you need to access you're off button right so -- them.
Well it's actually I have a whole chapter in success under stress that things that you can do in one to three minutes during very busy days in order to pass them off button.
And it's actually very important for your performance.
Because you never get new ideas when you're just kind of jamming all day long.
It's only when you can take a step back and see the big picture so back to getting back to sleep at night this is -- -- -- -- it.
It is gonna need to know this is that there's a breathing technique you can do that will engage that relaxation response put you back to sleep like a baby.
Left -- breathing.
You literally you just cover your right now stroke.
Copyright national -- movement exclusively for your -- left milestone.
And in about three minutes even new type a personalities out there and I had island -- out you'll be back we're just breathe normally did you see it all through my left -- just let me just read only three year left.
And what it does that activate some nerve that again just immediately gives you that relaxation response studies -- Yes they're time we might edit control arm is telling me that I did today very good job demonstrating that and to try not to look at -- -- at a -- -- don't think you're right now but but if you think just talking to you is also very relaxing.
I can imagine you being very good aircraft because you have -- very nice aura about you might tell me and I had a I had absolutely give me another challenge is a little bit different but I think a lot of families -- our.
Single single mom single parent working parent.
Environments look parents working it doesn't matter that must be a source trust for a lot of people are not there coddling their kids there working in coming home at 6 o'clock at night then.
Having tests to manage that -- -- tips for working parents.
Well I think you're referring to the guilt San -- right so there's a few things first of all you know there's a lot of studies that have come out of working mother magazine you know their research that really shows that.
Women who are working whether it's -- time -- full time -- actually are happier more and not to make a judgment but just added that they don't have to feel guilty about it and really what's most important is your state of mind that you're bringing to your children.
Nothing is our arms -- -- yes.
And -- this thing actually is that there was a study that was done about a decade ago they asked to listen what's the thing you want the most from your parents they said.
For money -- to hate your book to come home less stressed and tired.
So one thing that you could use that even if you're working long days again it's not so much about the number of hours that -- working but it's more what's the quality the energy and attention you're coming home with and really.
Like I was saying that on and that off button.
If you can.
Worked intensely for a period of time what's in ninety minutes -- your during your day followed by one of these 123 minute we're kind of recovery periods.
So we can get your energy back and renew.
Then you come home at the end of your day with 30% more energy than if you just push push push -- logo go give give give all day long so.
That's a gift that you can give -- your children even if nothing can change in your work environment and your.
And -- providing for them -- all that time work and yet he's excellent points and unfortunately.
Stress is something that impacts all of us and handling it understanding it.
Is key and you know I'm I'm excited to actually pick up a copy of your -- success and distressed thank you so much -- to -- -- -- for coming on.
You -- you have a let's say two which were put on the screen as well Sharon comic dot com and -- like ten on something funny and big.
Danny you always do that for us you say the only time you worry about stress.
Can bring you something and don't tell you -- That's nothing spring training -- every about edit it.
The we'll be back tomorrow with some tips for small businesses out there --
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