Is Sheryl Sandberg ignoring maternal instinct?
Suzanne Venker on why women don't want to be CEO
- Duration 7:33
- Date Mar 12, 2013
Suzanne Venker on why women don't want to be CEO
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Sheryl Sandberg everyone knows -- from FaceBook she's saying that women need to -- hand and that they are not represented.
In the top positions the statistics show that -- clearly -- still outnumber women in the top position to corporations.
If she's making a big push about this but perhaps she's.
Well it's yet -- -- accurate Suzanne bankers the vice president for the center for marriage policy in the author of how to choose a husband.
And the war on men what do you think well first welcome to the career accelerator but what do you think about what Sheryl Sandberg is -- So you know might might be freely few well with Sheryl Sandburg message.
Is that it's essentially.
Repeating what women have been hearing for decades -- to lean -- to their careers that's really not new and what's what's different for her.
Is that she has a much larger agenda at play here she's looking for.
Essentially 50% representation.
At down at home -- went back up.
She's looking for gender balance and for her gender balance means 50% of men in the home and 50% of -- -- workforce are businesses so.
Let let's break that down a bit first of all lean in its opposition better talking points from NBC because that is their slogan is it ought.
And he's also trying to sell a book here but does -- -- raise -- does she raise a valid.
Claim that for whatever reasons whether it's genetic cultural societal.
Women are not where they ought to be.
No I think women are exactly where they ought to be and more importantly where they want to be.
That's what's missing from this conversation the fact that there are not women equally represented with -- at the top is not a matter of gender discrimination.
Or this unfairness of women's work -- at home which is one of her arguments it's because women are making a choice very clearly.
To have a balanced life and we hear that word all the time that's what women want so part of the point of the article -- -- for fox this past weekend was that.
Part time work has become the number one choice of married women with children.
So they've sort of tried on this whole concept of career first -- second her family made here.
-- not at all.
Four for a long time now and they've come to realize that something's missing you know when you have your focus solely on one thing which is what's in -- suggesting is to -- -- myopic focus that's not having at all that's only having half.
So what I'm trying to do is get people to really get what they want what they say they want which is a little bit of this and a little bit of that.
And that requires thinking ahead when you are young.
About marriage and motherhood it's not to dismiss -- which is what -- argument is and think about it when you have to do with the end.
You know to fifteen years down the line I'm saying map out your life understanding that you're gonna want these -- he says.
And it and the choices in my own -- since I went to elementary school middle school and high school with a guy who is a computer programmer.
He and his wife they made the decision they had children.
She went back to work and he's the work he does is raising the children they made that decision together that's it she -- that's -- he wanted to is that any kind of thing revenue they they plan hasn't.
-- absolutely I'm saying the opposite -- Sheryl -- saying witches.
The start making room for what you gonna do when you get married and have children.
Way in advance so that you can make decisions about whom to marry.
What job to have where you wanna live how many children you want all these things factor into really having at all although I hate that phrase yeah I really think what.
I really think we need to move it from having at all to having enough having it up Michael.
You know eat some I think that there and and this is as it.
If I'm wrong tell me Adam your being chauvinist or wrong but it seems as if there is a societal extra pressure on women.
To be everything she can bring on the -- and in -- fried up in -- pan and never let you forget you're a man I mean.
There's a lot that we expect -- -- to be a mom to be -- working woman outside of the household to you know the partner with their husband.
I it seems like there's a lot of pressure placed on women is it real -- is it is it.
-- -- -- -- I think it's real in that -- message from the culture has been that you.
-- do all of these things simultaneously.
And that's what creates this.
-- to sell super woman -- super mom you can't have everything you want out of flight most of what you want.
If you understand that you're gonna have it not all at once and you're gonna.
It's you can do it piecemeal you know woman's life has seasons and there's a time when you're gonna have babies and sort of what -- -- and there's times they're gonna wanna be single and gulf.
You know full throttle with work and then just gonna come a time probably when you're gonna wanna combine it to some degree but how are you gonna do that well is that -- and.
Elizabeth Warren the senator -- Massachusetts actually wrote a book the two income trap.
And she talked about how there's this belief that having two people working actually makes your family better off and she shows statistically how actually.
The one income family can actually do as well if not better in a lot of cases and make the argument is why one person should stay at.
Are you seeing -- -- stay at home is that an option available to -- to society say what's wrong with -- -- -- We live approximately a 148000.
Stay at home dads today when I wrote my first book we had 98.
So that was -- ten years ago so we've definitely.
Seen -- rise there but of course it's not a huge rise.
However regardless of who stays home that whole one income family.
Concept adds that.
As being impossible Larry you know you can't do it there's no way.
A I take issue with -- I written extensively about how that's just not true and that there are plenty of families that are making it because of the choices that they.
Make in terms of budgeting but also.
Knowing that in advance that you're never gonna be able to stay home once again that's something that's going to.
Affect the decisions you make so if you assume that you're gonna hold your whole life is going to stay focused on the bringing home an -- com.
And then what happens for a lot of women as they get to the point where their home with their babies -- think.
I I wanna be home for a few years I want embraced this but they can't because the decisions that they've made have made it's that they need those two incomes you know -- -- they.
Once a year we always get the -- that the articles about them pay inequity and that women on average -- less than men for the same work performed but isn't a part of that.
The statistic that creates that outcome the fact that some women.
Take the path of on the take a few years off in the career to raise children that's the agreement I -- my husband that's how -- -- decided.
Then when they come back they're playing catch up to their peers who did -- leave the work.
-- absolutely that's the same reason -- more aren't more women at the top.
And -- top levels because women as I said before our multifaceted.
We want to make room for exercise friendships.
Look sickly -- and of course motherhood.
Basically having a life outside of work and so what's the best way to do that you know standards -- basically your life as work.
Those of us who want to have a life.
Obviously are gonna need to make room for that so.
It really is about what do you wanna live to work our work to live and what we're learning from the research -- that women want to embrace more tonight out of life you know just their job.
Good to adapt to achieve just said about -- to live -- to work because -- -- -- Spain years ago and they have a great expression the world needs to live -- in Spain we live to eat.
So I'm gonna -- ago Suzanne thank you very much for joining us you can read his n.'s latest article at foxnews.com and of course her book.
I do -- -- check out how to choose a husband and the war on men Suzanne -- thank you very much for joining us on career accelerator.
Thanks for having.