Is Your Relationship Ready for Valentine’s Day?
Author Laurie Puhn breaks down relationship tips for today’s couples.
- Duration 7:38
- Date Feb 11, 2013
Author Laurie Puhn breaks down relationship tips for today’s couples.
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Solid relationship term are right I.
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Now our relationship is grade and as I'm gonna tell you why.
And I and I wrote about this and -- -- of -- -- many years ago before I wrote about I was sitting at the dinner table at a restaurant with friends.
And they asked you know girls can sometimes say -- think your husband whatever T -- to husband -- -- I -- I don't know.
He looked at me like I had revealed a deep dark secret policeman I don't now.
All I know is what I can control I can't control -- But it's being aware that my relationship like anyone else's is totally vulnerable.
Means that I can't you know stop paying attention.
To -- and investing and it to make sure that we appreciate each other and fight fairly and show respect -- a daily conversations and that's really the only way to prevent.
The break up -- divorced by acknowledging that anything could happen.
All -- -- they've done -- well we got married in 2007.
So how about sixty years almost six years.
Because governor children we have to chants -- we have four and a half cure all -- And two year old and we just celebrated little analysts -- bank a couple weeks home.
-- -- -- -- -- -- -- -- It will research shows that the first year of having a baby is actually the toughest for a couple term 90% of people say that they are worse off -- -- -- here -- less happy than they never -- So yes the first year was tough for their first child but by the time you have a second -- you just get the flow of that.
And it's really important because life gets so hectic and -- also busy.
That we really mean -- -- daily conversations.
You know said you know -- get us -- asked that.
And we remembered just say please and thank you and walk in the door and -- -- we went agreed to computer.
You know a dog or you know nice degree to children but you gotta make -- -- getting to arm made otherwise term we will.
Even well to level out -- assess.
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Well an artist by a less love more I always say to have that conversation in advance -- don't date you know just be local law it's important -- of the five regrets his new research out.
And confessions of divorced people.
And five of their biggest regrets -- marriage and from their prior marriage what you know caused it to break.
Down and one of the biggest ones is mind reading.
You know because we wanna live in a fantasy world that someone's gonna know what we want and birthday isn't.
Like if we -- to have a lasting marriage we have to to say so I he knows Iowa aren't.
He knows what I want and I don't know what he wants he headed to jail nor you don't IDO not what they do our own land he went today at.
And they Sunday to himself to go to beer fast and have a good time.
So are -- got I want the same think.
So are you wanted to -- children.
You know what a day a day just -- and it is is really.
That very high a -- commodity when -- married with young children oh just today it's yourself without guilt.
And that's it makes you come back in and have more -- attention energy.
I don't know sort of diminish them vanity am not sold my -- tells also like government Teddy bear who have backed down.
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So but I -- our -- -- pulled out.
We're watching the super -- And nobody is not really snuggled.
Plug on her slightly -- then she says to me shouldn't of Teddy bear have some blind.
But I accused her of being greedy.
Or assumptions publisher -- But tell my daughter's lump sum and apostles.
But -- -- -- up there you.
Editor I have to say what you have done is completely listen to your -- Now.
That's the art of -- -- You know people are saying things every day that we just ignore in fact one of the top by Democrats is ignoring army in -- on top BS but.
You know as life goes sign that we really just stop to do -- -- to do only redeeming.
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Peru's government -- -- and you know what she would love.
Where did you all the time on air about how great your address but if you weren't the right -- to say something under the whole time so then she hasn't or -- You are the most charming man in -- -- Got our time make my own -- started card and then on Tuesday card -- their cards are compose them myself.
And -- -- -- and didn't functional very -- hey man listening.
-- -- -- -- -- -- Absolutely absolutely if there were really excited we are launching a fight left of more.
Course because all of us -- basically good people and sometimes are just ineffective mates we don't of the verbal skills you know.
We do this great course with family dynamics institute -- very experienced non profit.
And it's going nationwide in just a couple weeks yen on a one hour week for nine weeks with your -- To improve your marriage you know whether it's the beginning -- the -- -- And and really you know get it to -- -- marriage that that we've dreamed -- there's no reason why we should all come home from your comfort.
-- bought on the rim had this discussion before we'll have -- I think it's important that even if you don't understand -- -- -- -- reminded.
It's important -- settlement so.
Absolutely and and the great way to think about that is it just comes down to words if you meets mad -- you and you don't know why and I Don couples mediation -- they don't know lack.
Just literally think you're really angry and I I'm not getting it can we sit down say you can explain it to make sure.
You -- -- -- and it's like -- You know like the clouds part whatever the anger is diminished instead of just leave me alone or I heard it all Friday.
It is it's you know changing our words ever -- call -- on.