Should we consider not setting goals in 2013?
Peter Bregman on what you need to focus on in the New Year
- Duration 6:13
- Date Dec 20, 2012
Peter Bregman on what you need to focus on in the New Year
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And now we have Peter -- joining us sunset with more about this amount as last week new years resolutions -- eight yeah and now you're saying we should consider.
Not even doing you know that -- -- -- I was talking to -- Christine and production who's saying.
You know show is breakthrough is anyway and I think you know what better way to not break your New Year's resolution -- not to have one in the first place right.
I guess you know here's the thing I did -- -- Here's the thing that we underestimate.
About goals which is the damage that they actually create and when we make them.
So you make a goal yes and then your singularly.
Focused on achieving an adult I hear -- What happens is you let all the other stuff 'cause I'm really kind of -- over here exactly television.
Now it -- but if you look at the research.
It drives unethical behavior so it up really wanted to hang out well for had a -- in the research I -- -- wouldn't happen.
So fine you know someone's -- this year's many years ago -- set a -- that all of there.
Auto repair stuff would bring in a 147 dollars per hour of work right and that they met that -- do you know how.
Now overcharging that you don't overturning of a Pinto remember the -- write a little tap in the Bakken boom of the car blows up -- Right they -- their goal of -- 2000 pound car under 2000 dollars right.
Great great yeah.
So so there is Ken O'Brien a former jets.
Member of the discord jets quarterback -- he had a goal to reduce.
Interfered passes right.
And he got paid for reducing his interfered passes and you know what he did.
He reduces interfere houses you know -- reduced.
Passes you just stop throw the -- -- much so all of his performance -- even though we cubicle and we set these goals and and we start doing things to reach them.
And that end up working against us that how do you set a goal in the first place I mean it's kinda.
I'm gonna lose forty pounds.
They figure how did you get to that you know all these goals that we set.
I think distract us and from what we actually really have to do is to just focus on things we want to focus -- so.
Focus Cunningham on -- -- yeah I would.
-- had a right so you decide what you want it is on the big proponent of areas of focus that I'm a big hundred saying you know if I want.
To sort of lose weight if that's -- goal rather than set a goal of a certain amount of weight that I want to lose by the way with the recent shows I'll probably make it.
I'll probably go back to my previous weight you know by the -- any by the end of the year right so.
So you know if I make it if I'm lucky enough to make it I'll probably lose -- but I still would have made Michael.
So instead I just think about what is it that I really want to focus on if what I wanna focus on is eating.
You know good food healthy food real food not too much of it.
You know mostly vegetables and a little bit of -- here and there if that's what if that's what I wanna do.
Then I'm just gonna focus on how I eat and -- -- focus on eating well.
The way it's gonna take care of itself the goal of how much -- -- loser -- that's gonna take care of itself.
So what I want people lose focus on the things that they want to do the path in effect that they would have taken with a goal focus on that path but just like -- -- Let's talk about the path because you say research from HBS Harvard Business School that.
To your point very nicely only 3% of graduating students -- there well.
Knows that this is it this is great -- so there's this research -- and it almost you know most of the people who are listening are probably have many of them will have heard of this research right.
That 3% of the Harvard.
Students of -- graduating class twenty years ago.
Wrote down their goals only 3% -- chemicals.
And -- twenty years later are worth more than the entire rest of the class the 97% of people didn't write chemicals.
Those 3% who -- -- -- -- are worth more than all the rest.
This is a study that is often cited often discussed is only one problem and it.
It never happens if there is no such study.
-- -- really really there is -- so I have heard it right I don't think it was fast and yeah people hear about it people talk about everybody loves goals talks about ready.
Don't doesn't it because you call I don't know we looked at all I look for the research.
Fast company look for the research Harvard and other -- telling me.
Really made it -- somebody said it.
Someone else said a sounds great comedy is that in my next beat someone else that I really love -- I heard it in his speech and this is how we should -- made up but there was no.
I couldn't find any study I did a big surge I couldn't find any study.
That that related in any way without -- so you know it's.
Now all of that set one of the things that will say is it's very very hard to live without goals.
And I find it hard to live without goals it's it's so ingrained in us -- -- going eve and Adam calls.
How do you mean.
Well maybe you're gonna have skin -- and have kids and -- did that.
Right or -- or -- long life was to become the job in your net job.
Right and you know actually people by the way who had a goal to say I get married have kids and they don't reach it.
And they're so focused on -- they're so focused on the don't we -- cash and probably and they say -- given up.
And then we then.
A month they end up getting some of -- they end up marrying out and you know the stores now these are just anecdotal stories right but I would suggest that the goal in hand.
Isn't particularly correlated with the success of ethical.
And that what is particularly correlated with us is that -- Google is doing things that.
Will end up giving you what you want or that by their very nature of which have what you want -- to be in a really great relationship with someone.
Start doing stuff you absolutely love and then you'll be in that relationship with someone when you find.
Peter pregnant I -- ill.
Just relax and 2013.
-- enjoy champagne -- -- -- -- with.
On the holidays happy new year your article LA and I knew -- saint Peter -- dot com thank you again for coming on -- -- thank you everybody for saying -- Lawrence in an --