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-- -- Jeff Greenfield why do -- As a Harvard educated family and divorce lawyer.
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Plus a look at -- but you know I think I heard earlier you mean somewhat of its talents.
You thought you were a better relationship expert and I am ourselves -- -- now well.
You said he had more advice.
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Realist -- Lessen the home maybe misinterpret and I was wondering problems you don't listen well hello and that's -- -- -- why you have arguments from her husband ago.
Can't you Crescent that most people who don't listen you are here where eleven yeah currency interviews all -- -- -- -- -- -- And -- don't listen.
What do you get -- people.
Are talking on a program -- -- And -- are not listening to each other.
So they'll often repeat you know another repeated children and it would make her a boring or don't you -- you -- -- and of course impeachment.
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Conflicts of that line.
Conflicts are not -- -- Yeah in fact it's truth of marriage that happy couples do fight.
And the goals three to solution but when we live in this you know notions of fairy -- on -- -- -- saying it's lately which I just love her comment she she enjoyed being married she said to -- like like it's I enjoyed eating ice cream -- -- Com you know what I believe in the fairy tale of marriage so she might get married again she said wallet you're also likely to get divorced week highs marriage -- -- fairy tale.
And I think -- happened because two people have different ends now.
How how do agree everything you somebody law.
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And should really is an -- really Wear -- I mean new lover but more -- but we resolve them pretty much.
So and is usually losing her temper.
Have sent some dignity.
-- not apologize until that moment on snow.
Penetrate an apology isn't something -- actually write about how to give a perfect apology and sometimes people here you know like oh I'm sorry.
It's very and it sounds millions this year but there isn't very good way to get an apology and and that's to -- sorry for.
And you give -- re.
You know and then you also offer plan to prevent the same mistake from happening again.
You know not to reveal a much -- what doesn't work.
Until it helps my relationship -- warrants I don't tonight there's everything is in both our names everything.
She can sign any cheque.
On any account any account I consult.
So there's never she knows exactly.
How much money ramble real own.
Are -- so we never have a discussion about.
In ultimate trust and security I actually at a couple comments to me.
Who were fighting about many things and as we narrow down their issue.
We figured out basically her name wasn't on the deed to the house graphic -- felt very insecure and their relationship that -- quite could lead to divorce and what was she -- do with the cats.
Mass numbered zero couples need to talk more -- and -- now.
Now the reality is couples need to talk better not more you know if we have good communication skills the more we say the -- sick cats.
So for instance you could start the day off really nicely by just saying you know good morning honey it's a good morning -- I'm here with -- How shorted that sector and yet it makes -- smile and -- the entire start of the -- you know.
And as unconditional.
No no -- again.
Lot is conditional in unconditional what we give kids no matter what we do we're gonna love them.
But the truth -- for marriage is that we love a person conditionally in those conditions Harris backed appreciation compassion.
That he has.
And when our values are eaten away and you -- mr.
S news and on earlier in your program who mentioned a marriage Paul.
Basically marriage get -- marriages relationships get worse over time.
Because we all -- a lot we assume while he knows respect him so you know I can just -- wrong -- -- screaming yell things without.
Apologizing more without giving him time to talk.
And the truth is over time when we stop respecting and appreciating -- loved nice I mean.
Love's -- not all relationships are vulnerable.
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Well that often happen in really good relationships is that you work -- -- kinks in the beginning.
So you know and it's not to -- it's never too late -- his facing this now Ken you know.
Pick up might let some more read articles what -- -- do topped your -- say listen.
You know to get intimacy -- I don't feel like come -- number one priority.
You do you feel like your mind.
And that's opening to a conversation about how do you make each other feel important again.
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As sister relationship expert.
Also ordered divorce -- Actually I'm a former former lawyer and an -- -- a -- I you know things get.
Communicated partly sometimes over email -- really -- -- -- Bruce is right.
Well I mean real I had -- all my husband says on the best kind of Blair all of what I'm -- -- -- -- Connell.
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-- -- -- -- -- Analysts important what is important to have a sentient -- yes out of absolutely -- women don't have a sense of a lot of people.
I LA after yourself sometimes I get really upset about something in my husband will be -- If this is the worst thing never happened to us that we don't lost this like green for -- really good life.
You know I just got a laugh because it's not such a big deal.
Any fights usually aren't enough information -- -- -- not sharing information I don't know what else do -- now.
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